Things I would never do for LOVE!!

I have neglected you guys for too long so now it's time to unleash another one of my master piece to this world. To my two loyal readers, I thank you for still being interested in this blog and I promise I will get you someone by giving you the best advice that I can.

Let's just say to all you who say they would do anything for love, I would like to tell you that's a lie. So stop the hypocrisy and let me show you the real world.

Number 1: Conversion

I would never ever convert to another religion or culture in the name of love. I see a lot of women trying to keep their "love" from leaving by switching over to another culture and what I will say to any woman who asked me for advice is to not be a dumb bitch. If the person truly loves you then they would never ever want to change you. If they want to then they really don't love you but they love the image that they have in their heads of you. Women or men should be loved for who they are, your culture does not essentially defines you. On a side note, love goes hand in hand with respect and if I was to date someone from another culture I will like them to respect my culture just as I would respect his culture!
A relationship should be giving and taking equally, I would like to provide my partner with a new experience from my culture and will always be willing to take anything from his culture! Here is a story about a relationship that never went through any conversion: a couple years one of my best friend's sister fell in love with this guy, he was Hindu and she was Catholic.....I know what you're thinking but fast track to the present time and they have two beautiful children. They did not CHOOSE what religion to grow their children in and because of that both kids are well versed in both religion and culture. They celebrates all the holidays that can be found in the two diverse cultures (more presents, hell yeah). The only roadblock that came their way was the in-laws, it was pretty gruesome but eventually the two families realize that both cultures would be shared and experienced equally, so they shut the fuck up. Now the moral of this story is that conversion isn't worth it in the end, they liked you for who you are not for who they want you to become (hopefully).

Number 2: Fuck Sharing!

Hold up! It was really hard finding the perfect word to encompass the entire genre that I'm about to unload on you. First thing I would never ever share my potential lover/husband/boyfriend with any other girls. The fucked up show that I see on TLC called "My Five Wives" or some shit like that won't ever work out fine for me. My man would be mine alone and no other bitches would ever get a piece of him, if he ever suggests such horrendous idea then I should realize that he was never mine to begin with. Love is between two people but fuck love if it means I have to stay there as some well trained poodle while he sleeps with other women who calls themselves the sister wives (how ironic)! Also, I will never allow myself to be shared! "If you love me then you will fulfill my fantasy by partaking in a threesome" is a no no hunny! I won't let myself be vindicated and my feminity be objectified because you have this dream in your head. If he wants to share a female he can get a dog and let it breed all over the place.

Number 3: Ditch my Bitches

I see a lot of girls when a guy sniffs they forget the people that was there for them. I absolutely hate that, why would you make a decison to cut off someone you may have known for years for someone you just met? That is not right and it would never be right! I would never ever leave my friends behind because I am in love with a guy. Friends, especially long term ones, are there to support you, advice you and most of all, call you up on your mistakes. Boyfriends may only tell you want you want to hear not the blunt truth (especially in the early part of the relationship). If a guy asks me to do that, I will quicker say "bye" to him than to my friends. If he don't like them or vice versa then it becomes a bit tricky; I would have suggest avoiding any contact between the two groups but that's the same as ditching them. My best solution is to either trust your friends advice because maybe they think he may turn into a frog with time or you could just tell both people involved to just shut up and put up with each other. You should be warned that there will be tense moments and even violent agruments between the two. Never ditch your bitch because your boy wants you to, he is either jealous of the close relationship (jealousy is never a good sign) or he just want to isolate you and then you'll become dependent on him.  Also, look long term, imagine if you guys breakup, who would you have? NO ONE! Then you will have to go back to your friends and beg for their forgiveness. If I was ditched by one of my friends for a boy, I will never take her back! JUST SAYING! Use your head in this situation, not your heart......or....the other body parts either!

Number 4: Making his problems, my problem!

Yes, Yes, Yes....I know sharing is caring blah blah blah but whoever said that is probably dead, which means that they were old which means that it doesn't apply in this modern world. I would never take his problem and make it my own nor would I expect him to take my problems. He should deal with his own issues for himself because he knows how to deal with. Nothing annoys me the most than hearing a boy talking about how their Ex won't leave them alone in the type of tone that hints that I should deal with her. I get mad at girls that want to fight with their boyfriend's Ex so that they can finally "claim" him as their own. Girls that do that is basic bitches and probably won't last long in the relationship. I am not saying that I won't be open to listen to his problems and lend a helping hand if he asks for it. I draw the line when he take a step back and pushes me to the frontline to deal with it. That won't happen, never would I ever do that for love. If you do that, then you have your problems plus his problems and that will only lead to you feeling depressed and stressed.

Number 5: Change

The only thing that will ever change when I am in a relationship is my facebook status from "single" to "in a relationship". No one is ever going to get me to change myself because I "love" them. Even they are thinking about it they would hit the curb even before they suggest it to me. I see girls changing how they do everything because their boyfriend asks them to do. That's dumb! You should be loved for you are not for who they want you to become (that sounds familiar). You lose your identity when you change yourself, this will only lead you to feeling unhappy which will eventually lead to the downfall in the relationship. Trust no guy who wants to change your habits, clothing or even your hair color. 

Ladies....or men.....there are moments in your relationship where you need to flip the off switch on your heart. For something that is essential for a person to live, it sure fucks up and hurt you the most. You need to know your limits and keep it in your head and don't ever let your heart change your mind. There are many more things that could have been included in this list so if there is any that you think should be included, comment below!